Relationships are amazing; break ups on the other hand? Not so fun. Most break ups can get messy and it can leave one or both partners spiteful. It is completely natural to want your ex to feel the same stress and frustration that you have been feeling, but is getting back at your ex really the best way for you to come out on top? Well, it depends on how you go about it. You could go about it irrationally, by destroying their property or starting a nasty rumor about them. But in most cases this only makes you look childish and not the kind of person your ex (or anyone) would want to be with. Or you could get back at your ex the classy way, and still maintain your dignity. The best way to really get back at your ex is by showing them what they are missing out on, and how important you were (and still are) to them. These next five tips will have your ex going crazy! And not only are they a good ways to get back at your ex, but they are perfect methods for getting your ex back as well.
1. Be independent.
Stop looking desperate, and let your ex breathe! If you have been begging, clinging, or are a text message terrorist- stop now! Not only does this make you look needy, it also doesn't allow you ex to miss you. So, instead of devoting all your attention to your ex,make them think you are doing just fine without them. Trust me, when your ex begins to get the feeling that you have moved on, they will realize that they still want and need you around.
2. Minimize contact.
If you still want to work on your relationship, cutting off communication may seem like the exact opposite thing to do. But in reality, it is the MOST important step in getting back at your ex/ getting them back. So, do your best to take a break from them and talk/email/text as little as possible (not at all is best). During this time your ex will begin to think about you more, and in a better view. Why? Because they will miss you. Your ex will not only miss you but they will be able to see just how important your company is to them.
3. Show your passionate side.
No, not THAT kind of passionate. But let your ex see how sympathetic and flexible you are. Show them that you can listen, not just jump to conclusions without hearing them out (something that happens frequently during break up). So, you asked them to pick up their things by a certain date, but for some reason they can't? Be O.k. with it. This kind of carefree attitude will surprise your ex, and may urge them to start communicating with you more, and fix some of the problems that led to the break up. Think about it, would you rather discuss your problems with someone who was calm and would hear you out, or someone hysterical?
4. Put on your dancin' shoes!
After a break up, the worst think you can do for yourself is to stay at home dwelling on "what could have been." Instead, make sure you make your life as entertainment packed as possible, start a new hobby or meet up with old friends that you haven't seen in ages. You don't have to date, but you do need to be enjoying yourself. Not only will going out be therapeutic for you, but it will convince your ex that they are missing out on a fun, happy person.
5.Stay true to yourself.
Your ex once loved you for a really good reason; the person you are. Go back to being your old self and focusing on the things you used to do, this will allow your ex to remember why they were in a relationship with you in the first place. If you are confident and happy with yourself, it will be impossible for your ex not to notice, and feel the same. By Sofia L.
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